“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit- you choose”. Proverbs 18:21 (The message bible)
Words are incredibly powerful, they can make or break you especially at a young age. I just read a true story online about a girl whose teacher told her at the age of eight that she was dancing like she had two left feet. To some people that might seem like some harmless words but she never enjoyed dancing, because she believed wasn’t a good dancer till twenty years later when she was forced to learn ballroom dancing for a wedding and her partner who was a real dancer told her she had a good sense of rhythm. Those words were like a blast of wind chimes in her ears and finally after 20 years of believing she couldn’t dance she dances her heart out now.
I don’t know if anyone has said something to you to make you believe you can’t attain any height you desire because you can and you deserve it.
For years I believed that I couldn’t write because my English teacher told me in SS1 that I was a bad writer. He never gave me anything more than a five out of ten in my essays and since he was my English teacher I sadly believed him.
I remember one essay where I had to write on the topic: It’s no use crying over spilt milk, I redefined the story by creating a scenario where the main character cried over spilt milk realized his error and made efforts to correct it. The main character was now the narrator encouraging others that these were his mistakes and that they also should not cry over spilt milk. I remember him giving me the usual five saying that the story is out of context. Meanwhile, he should have told me that I was creative and given me pointers on how he wanted the story to be.
My people, I was only 14; I couldn’t read minds yet😉, I only wrote my heart out. My chime moment was when I was 16 and I came second place in Nigeria in an essay competition for we are the future of our nation. It was then that a thought suddenly came to me: “Well… maybe I can write”. Amazingly,the best part of that award was watching my English teacher who had accompanied us to the program have his mouth agape in shock when they called my name to receive the award. That was all I needed, I smiled all the way to the stage😀😀.
Okay…Point, let no one decide who you believe you are or what you become. YOU are the only one responsible for YOUR own life. Always say to yourself :”I am strong and fearless and I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me (Phil 4:13)”. We need to be confident and sure of ourselves because greater is he who is in us that he who is in the world (1 John 4:4).We are more than conquerors👑👑.(Romans 8:37)
So pleaaase, don’t let those words stop you from reaching your goal. Do what you love and don’t be afraid to try new things. If there something you feel you can’t do, just do it, you will be amazed at what you will achieve. I read something today and it said to befriend your fear cause it tells you when you are reaching the boundaries of your comfort zone. This new year decide to step outside that comfort zone and face that fear, challenge it and get over it.
Travel, if that is what you’ve always wanted to do, it mustn’t be far it can be to a nearby city/country. Try mountain climbing, writing, dancing or even singing. Just do what you never thought you could, you will surprise yourself and even if for example you turn out to be a terrible singer, you would be excited that you allowed yourself face that fear. What’s the worst that could actually happen? This year please don’t limit yourself, you determine how much you achieve in your life not anyone else. Don’t be that person that will sit telling their kids how they always wanted to dance but never did. Let there be no regrets in your life.
Now it’s not only others who can affect us with words we also can affect ourselves with those negative words.
Let me tell you a story of a girl who from age 10 till age 17 believed she wasn’t smart, she would always come top 3 in her set and at the back of her mind she ask how was it possible? and how long could she continue to deceive them? She read but she never felt she read as much as other people, understanding just came easy to her and she lived under that seige for 7 years… that girl was me.
I never felt I deserved to come first or second, I read but there was always one useless voice telling me, you are not intelligent enough, you will never be able to survive in the midst of REAL smart people… and other words like that. I never tried to even take the SATs and apply to my dream school MIT because I believed I wasn’t good enough but truth is we all are.
I realise later that no matter what your dream is make it a reality by facing those fears and taking those steps to achieve them. If it means working hard just do it, do whatever is required of you to achieve all your dreams: the big ones and the small ones. Live a full life, you are never too old to learn anything new.
Many of us are killing ourselves with our razor toungues telling ourselves we can’t achieve this or that. Imagine if one of close friends said just one of those negative things you say to yourself. How would you react? Imagine the anger/sadness you’d feel after hearing such a thing. Now picture what you are doing to yourself. Everyday??? You are killing yourself.
Remind yourself that you are royalty, believe that and never act anything less. Treat yourself well and live a happy life. That is the person that God want you to be: confident, secure and assured in his word. Keep smiling. God has an amazing plan for us this year. Happy new year everyone!!!